Whether realizing it or not, each and every decision we make throughout our lives is tied to our self-esteem and our self-confidence. For better or worse, a high self-esteem and self-confidence are crucial tools for navigating our social terrain.
According to Psychology Today, “People with low self-esteem tend to see the world as a hostile place and themselves as its victim.” Due to this, “they are reluctant to express and assert themselves, miss out on experiences and opportunities, and feel powerless to change things.”
Of course, there are ways to combat these feelings. We’ve listed these self-confidence & self-esteem boosters below.
Identify Major Life Achievements
Rather than focusing on perceived failures, or worse, perceived future failures, focus on what you’ve achieved up till now. Mindtools suggestions building an achievement log.
Essentially, with this log, you’ll build a case for a positive viewpoint of yourself.
Pinpoint Your Qualities
After your experience with the achievement log, another self-esteem booster will be delivered by way of a top ten list of your greatest strengths. Both the log and the list are designed to force you out of your negativity centered mindset.
Consistency Is Key
Build A Routine
In troubled times, it’s common for structure and routine to fall by the waysides. The first thing to go will likely be sleep, which is detrimental to a positive scaling self-esteem.
Therapist and author Emily Roberts states that “Sleep deprivation wears down our normal capacity to deal with daily aggravations and challenges, causing the cycle of stress to wear us down.”
Another recurring weakness in those who have suffered through self-esteem issues is the diet. It’s not easy to master, but a balanced diet is a cornerstone to any well-structured routine.
The challenge now is fighting through the noise of dietary information. It’s strongly suggested to contact a dietitian if at all feasible.
Once sleep and diet have been addressed, it’s time to draw up a workout plan. A good workout routine is heavily linked to major gains in self-confidence.
Harvard studies indicate that even a 35-minute walk 5 times a week would have “significant influence on mild to moderate depression symptoms.”
Once you have the wheels turning on all these different goals, it’s important to keep track of everything with a daily planner. This can be handled the old school way by pen and paper or by an Android or iOS app.
Plotting out your goals for each day makes it more likely that you’ll accomplish said goals. Psychology Today suggests scheduling each minute available to you.
Maintain a Standard For Appearance
When the pressure is on, you could slide into a habit of skipping showers, wearing dirty or unsightly clothes in public or even dropping appearance maintenance altogether. As stated by Zenhabits, a shower and shave can go a long way to providing the confidence boost needed to assert yourself.
Just as you mapped out your workout and food routines, you can do the same for your appearance. Analyze your wardrobe, and if necessary, update it.
At the end of each day, pick out your clothing for the next day. That way you’re prepared to hit the ground running come morning time.
Beat The Fear
Overcoming Self-esteem or self-confidence issues may be one of the hardest fights you will have to live through. Moreover, everyone knows the hard truth to “it’s easier said than done.” However, foregoing hard work for the short-term satisfaction of comfort has never gotten anyone anywhere.
In order to function and succeed in society, you will have to beat the fear. Beyond that, the alternative is akin to stagnation and death. That may seem like a dramatic take, but without our own security, what do we have?